I realized something today... I realized that I was scared of being single. I'd been single for some very long periods of time in the last 10 years. It never bothered me, I always thought it was better to be single than be with someone just to be with someone... I guess the age is catching up with me now. I caught myself thinking that I would be holding on to my next boyfriend even if he wasn't what I was looking for.
All of my friends are married or are in serious relationships, they either have kids or are trying to have kids and here I am about to turn 27 in a couple of months and I am nowhere near anything serious...
All of a sudden, I feel like my life is pointless: work, workout, sleep, hang out with friends once in a while, work, sleep...
Sorry for making you read this. I am seriously depressed and don't know what to do about it today...
About My Fabulous Self
- Girlie Monkey
- I am just a girl navigating my way through the exciting career and the jungle called DWS (dating while single)
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I don't know what to say that doesn't sound "pat," but all I can think is that you're soooooooooo young. Enjoy this really special time of freedom--go travel, and then travel some more. That's my biggest happiness in life...that, when I couldn't find the right man, I just kept travelling. Now that I'm married and have kids, those trips are my biggest NON-regret.
Do this. Close your eyes.
Imagine sitting at home everyday for hours on end for years waiting for one man, tracking him down, making sure he gets home certain hour and steers away from other influences....
Imagine going to work because you have to and the money that you're generating it's no longer yours.
Imagine screaming kids with every meal, every nutrition in their body depends on you to provide... every day - 7 days a week.
Imagine going to see doctors, nurses, teachers, technicians - who all seem to have a saying on how you should behave...
Imagine not having great wild sex, again... ever...
Imagine not ever shopping for yourself again, travel anywhere without 10 pcs luggages, and meeting with other people to catch the latest movie and shows at your whim.
Let's not mention the holidays when you have to plan everything but everyone else around you who are supposed to be your family would only want to do other stuff...
Now open your eyes.
Aren't you glad you're single?
You are allowed to feel like crap for 24 hours. Then, you have to buy yourself some shoes. That's what always works for me. If it will help, you can buy me some shoes.
Awww...you're still a young'un! :) Just a wee pup! I spent the most part of my adult life in and out of sucky relationships and at times felt like I was destined to walk the rest of my life in solitude. I'd always wished and hoped to meet someone wonderful, but never had any luck.
I just got married last June and I was *gulp* 30 when I got married. My 30's feel like the best times of my life. I feel more secure in myself, my relationship, my life, my financial situation...whereas when I was in my 20's I felt I had a lonnnnnng way to go still.
I say, revel in your singlehood (uhh...is that a word, or did I make that up??). Enjoy your freedom, your new relationships, friendships, your life without being responsible to anyone but yourself :)
Curiosity, I love you like a sister...BUT, you can still have great, wild sex...even if you're married ;) The excitement shouldn't end once marriage begins :) In fact, it should be the beginning of a lifetime of exciting new things. I do see what you mean though. I used to love hanging out with the girls and basking in my single days. I love the fun I had with my girlfriends, just being silly, enjoying my freedom...but barring this fact, I also enjoy having my husband around :) He's my partner in crime, my calming presence when the world just seems too wacky...I could live without him...I just choose not to :)
Anyway, these things helped me when I felt down about being solo:
-realize how lucky you are to have the life you have and the freedom you have
-spend time with some great gal pals and enjoy yourself
-go on a road trip (heck, even get lost! The getting lose part is the fun part! Unexpected things can happen when you get lost! LOL)
-Finally, like Mist1 says, BUY A GORGEOUS, SEXY, HOT pair of shoes!!
One more thing: I LOVE MISSOURI!!!
LOL! I went there to meet up with a friend over there a few years ago. I just had a blast over there! It's a totally different world from Toronto!
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