Sooooo.... I am trying to figure out what is wrong with me...
Trent is nice, good looking, smart, funny (quite a catch, right?) but he wouldn't shut up about how much I mean to him and how he would never do anything to hurt me, how he can see us growing old together, blah blah blah. He says he doesn't want to pressure me or scare me away yet he keeps putting me on the spot, trying to ask me if I miss him (or asking me if I am just saying that when I say it myself). I've been trying to be patient because I am hoping he will tone it down eventually but he is really starting to annoy me... Don't know how much more I can take...
Is it because I am used to dealing with guys that only want sex with no strings attached? Why do I like the bad boys that treat me like crap?
By the way, he is not going to make it down here tonight, so I get to spend the weekend with my girls. So excited!!!
Trent is nice, good looking, smart, funny (quite a catch, right?) but he wouldn't shut up about how much I mean to him and how he would never do anything to hurt me, how he can see us growing old together, blah blah blah. He says he doesn't want to pressure me or scare me away yet he keeps putting me on the spot, trying to ask me if I miss him (or asking me if I am just saying that when I say it myself). I've been trying to be patient because I am hoping he will tone it down eventually but he is really starting to annoy me... Don't know how much more I can take...
Is it because I am used to dealing with guys that only want sex with no strings attached? Why do I like the bad boys that treat me like crap?
By the way, he is not going to make it down here tonight, so I get to spend the weekend with my girls. So excited!!!
7 comments:
I so know what you mean. Why can't we find a happy medium. You know a little bad boy but with good guy qualities.
I think it is because we expect guys to not be the mushy ones, to be questioning us about our feelings and "what are you thinking right now" kind of questions. I know that I've done those stupid "girlie" mistakes. Since it was done to me and I realized how annoying it is, I've toned it down a lot.
Have you told him to back off a bit, that he's smothering you or pestering you with all this, that you just want to take things slow and see where they go?
I hope things work out with him, he does sound like a great guy but maybe you just need to talk to him and lay down some rules. I don't know just a thought?? BTW how's the kissing any better?
God this was like looking in a mirror- girl give that guy a try. I always ran from those guys and ended up with the 'boys that were a challenge' and lucky the girl who caught him! Well I caught him alright...until he moved on to the next...they always do. I promised myself that the next time I find a guy like that again, I will give him a second and third look. If after the 3rd date, there is still nothing then ok...otherwise, it's worth experimenting. You may like being treated like the goddess that you are!
Sounds like you need more of a challenge and a guy who can keep you on your toes, rather than someone who you can whip and is for you at your beck and call.
There's nothing wrong with you. Obviously, Trent is a girl. You just want a man.
Nothing wrong with you girl, just the wrong guy.
(and there's definately nothing wrong with a weekend with the girls!)
I think many girls want a guy who is understanding, compassionate, thoughtful, sweet, but at the same time, passionate, pro-active, secure in himself, confident...and not clingy and obsessive. If there's anything I can't stand, it's people who make me feel like I'm suffocating. When someone's clingy, I feel stifled.
See how things go with Trent. Let him know he doesn't have to worry and stop being so pushy about the relationship thing. Let things progress naturally. It is quite scary that a person can be so serious so fast.
I know how you feel though. Before I got married, I used to always dump the "good guys". You know, the ones who would do anything for you, treat you like gold and make you know how much you mean to them. I'd always dump them and end up with the a-holes...the guys who were totally wrong for me. I don't know why I always ended up in "those" types of relationships. I was even engaged to an a-hole that I thought I could change. Ultimately, a woman can never change a man...or vice versa. The person must want to change and that's the reality. Anyway, tired of being treated like crap (LONG story and I'll spare you this time!), we ended things and I moved away (far, far away).
I had sworn off men for a while and just did my own thing. I got busy and didn't even think of dating anyone again...and that's when it hit me. I was introduced to my hubby at a time when I least expected it. Probably because I wasn't looking for anything. I know this sounds like a pile of crap :) but it's true.
The funny thing is that my hubby is everything I wanted in a partner. He's got the qualities I mentioned (above), and was never one of those obsessive, possessive, clingy, annoying guys. People who are like that need more reassurance and confidence.
See how things work out with Trent. If you think you can't cope with the way he is with you, then don't waste your time. People don't change that easily. Always give people a chance, but don't waste your time if things don't feel right in your gut. Gotta trust your instincts!
Sorry for such a long comment!!! Can't wait to hear what happens next :)
Hmmmm... the kissing problems have escalated to "Desperate To-Be-Your-Husband" problems, huh? I would presume that the ladies who've commented here know what they're talkin' 'bout... Nothing to add here, but just wanna say - LIVE, LOVE (NOT), AND BE MERRY ON YOUR GIRLS-ONLY NIGHT OUT!!! :-)
To all da ladies who are helping Girlie Monkey out with her Trent problems (and who are inadvertently helping poor l'il ol' me as well): You rock!
Kim is soooo right! You all totally rock! It's midnight and I just got back from another business trip. Will update tomorrow since my eyes don't want to stay open any more...
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