Happy Monday everyone! My weekend didn't turn out to be as eventful as I originally thought it would... I'll get to that later.
As I was navigating my way through the jungle of online dating, I kept laughing at the ridiculous "names" that the guys came up with for their profiles. I thought I'd share them with you in this post.
SexualThemePark
Girlie Monkey: No comment here
sweetman4ubunny
GM: Why are you calling me "bunny"? What have I done to you?
electrifyingbone
GM: Hmm... If you are talking about a regular bone, then what the hell is an electrifying one? If you are talking about your personal bone, then, an electrifying bone is just plain scary!
Hi-De-Ous
GM: Are you calling me hideous or you think you are? Either way, not attractive.
andrelovesittoo
GM: Good for Andre?! Who is Andre and what does he love? And who else loves it besides him?
blackbelowthewaist
GM: (I was not sure what he was talking about until I read some other comments in his profile) Apparently he is referring to the size of a certain body part... Makes me want to jump his bones...not!
Drclitoris
GM: I'm not making this up! If the name wasn't bad enough, he goes on to talk about how he could "solve all of your problems, especially the ones that have something to do with your vagina" Are you my Gyno?
Oh, who can resist that kind of creepy dirty talk!
Imtheprettiest
GM: If you say so... Why did you post some ugly dude's picture then?
IcheatonuUcheatonme
GM: It took me a second to figure this one out... Once I did... I just gotta say, what can be more appealing than a guy letting me know up front that he is planning to cheat on me and advising me to do so as well. How thoughtful is that!
I'm sure I'll come up with a few more. In the mean time, check out the names that Jenn came across (click on "Scream" Names category). That's where I originally got the idea of blogging about this.
Monday, July 31, 2006
Friday, July 28, 2006
Feeling "Blogalicious"
It's finally Friday! I've been so crazy at work the whole week that I can't wait to let loose, have some cocktails and do nothing over the weekend.
My weekend Agenda:
Friday night - Girls Night Out - My friend DC and I are going out dancing.
Saturday night - Going to an amusement park with MR.
Sunday afternoon - Going to the Lake with J. Planning on sitting around on the boat, having a few beers and getting a tan!
I had a really cool topic in mind for today's post but I am so hungry that I can't think straight right now. If I'm still feeling "blogalicious" after lunch, I'll come back and post more. If not... Enjoy your weekend festivities ya all!!!
Thursday, July 27, 2006
Some Great Safety Tips - Especially helpful for the single ladies out there!
1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do!
2. Learned this from a tourist guide in New Orleans. If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you....chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!
3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won't see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives.
4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON'T DO THIS!) The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.
a. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO NOT DRIVE OFF, repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and speed into anything, wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will save you. If the person is in the back seat they will get the worst of it. As soon as the car crashes bail out and run. It is better than having them find your body in a remote location.
5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:
A.) Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side floor, and in the back seat.
B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.
C.) Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out.
IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)
6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is especially true at NIGHT!)
7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN, Preferably ! in a zig -zag pattern!
8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP. It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked "for help" into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.
9.Another Safety Point: Someone just told me that her friend heard a crying baby on her porch the night before last, and she called the police because it was late and she thought it was weird. The police told her "Whatever you do, DO NOT open the door."
The lady then said that it sounded like the baby had crawled near a window, and she was worried that it would crawl to the street and get run over. The policeman said, "We already have a unit on the way, whatever you do, DO NOT open the door." He told her that they think a serial killer has a baby's cry recorded and uses it to coax women out of their homes thinking that someone dropped off a baby. He said they have not verified it, but have had several calls by women saying that they hear baby's cries outside their doors when they're home alone at night.
2. Learned this from a tourist guide in New Orleans. If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you....chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!
3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won't see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives.
4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON'T DO THIS!) The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.
a. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO NOT DRIVE OFF, repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and speed into anything, wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will save you. If the person is in the back seat they will get the worst of it. As soon as the car crashes bail out and run. It is better than having them find your body in a remote location.
5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:
A.) Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side floor, and in the back seat.
B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.
C.) Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out.
IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)
6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is especially true at NIGHT!)
7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN, Preferably ! in a zig -zag pattern!
8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP. It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked "for help" into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.
9.Another Safety Point: Someone just told me that her friend heard a crying baby on her porch the night before last, and she called the police because it was late and she thought it was weird. The police told her "Whatever you do, DO NOT open the door."
The lady then said that it sounded like the baby had crawled near a window, and she was worried that it would crawl to the street and get run over. The policeman said, "We already have a unit on the way, whatever you do, DO NOT open the door." He told her that they think a serial killer has a baby's cry recorded and uses it to coax women out of their homes thinking that someone dropped off a baby. He said they have not verified it, but have had several calls by women saying that they hear baby's cries outside their doors when they're home alone at night.
Wednesday, July 26, 2006
What do men want?
So I went to lunch with J. today. It went pretty good. He seemed like a very interesting person. He is actually a history teacher in high school, he just bartends in the summer. He also has three college degrees in completely unrelated subjects and on top of that he coaches a whole bunch of different sports. Pretty much an expert in anything which is kind of intriguing to me. He asked me to go to the lake with him on Sunday. He also texted me 10 minutes after I left the restaurant to let me know he had a good time. Too cute! Love when guys do that. While I was on a date with J., MS. texted me to see if I had any lunch plans... and MR. left a voicemail to see if we were on for Saturday (trip to an amusement park)... Man, I am popular!
This sudden outburst of activity in my dating life got me thinking... What do men really want?
The thing is, as I think I've stated before, I am not very good at dating more than one person at a time. Once I am interested in somebody, I don't feel like seeing anyone else. I become so excited and anxious when I have a crush that I guess I come off as somewhat needy and that scares guys away. On the flip side of that, when I don't really care about any one person in particular, I just enjoy meeting new people and that makes me seem like more of a challenge to the guys and ; therefore, a lot more attractive. Where is that fine line between letting a guy know you are interested and still being the attractive "hard to get" girl?
Right now, I am not very interested in any of my Male Harem members and I think that's the reason they are literally bombarding me with phone calls, emails, text messages and date offers. It's a little overwhelming but flattering, of course.
Why can't I be that way with a guy that I actually like?
Was I Impressed?
Last night, MS and I went to the movies for our first date. We saw "You, Me and Dupree" which I thought was funny (love Owen Wilson) but they could have compressed the last 40 minutes of the movie into 10 minutes. A little drawn out but good nonetheless.
What I thought about my date... First of all, a tip for the guys, don't ever take a girl to the movies, I mean only to the movies (especially not on a weeknight) on the first date. Not that there is anything wrong with that, but you only get to talk to her for about 15 minutes before the movie and if she is not very impressed with you she has a very easy way out after the movie is over. Plus, the movie theatre parking lot doesn't exactly have the atmosphere that's conducive to any sort of romantic "good night kiss".
That's basically what happened. We went to an 8:30pm movie, it was over by 10;45pm and I couldn't get to my car fast enough! MS suggested going for a couple of drinks and appetizers but I declined due to having to get up early the next morning. Why?
Well, for starters, MS is in love with MS, only talks about MS and thinks MS rocks! Our pre-movie conversation consisted of MS reciting exactly what he did for the last couple of days. I am talking literally: woke up at such and such time, brushed my teeth, took a shower, etc. down to every little detail. Very engaging, let me tell ya! He also made it a point for me to see that he drove a brand new Mercedes 600 (love the car but hate posers). The last thing that completed my impression of him was the "hands-free earpiece" that he insisted on wearing while watching a movie even though his phone was turned off... WTF?
Now that I think about it... Kind of glad we only went to the movies...
Having lunch with J. , the bartender I met over the weekend. I'll keep you posted.
Happy Wednesday
P.S. Beth, I am not sure I am ready to ship Ryan to you for good but I can overnight him to you every other weekend. How's that sound?
What I thought about my date... First of all, a tip for the guys, don't ever take a girl to the movies, I mean only to the movies (especially not on a weeknight) on the first date. Not that there is anything wrong with that, but you only get to talk to her for about 15 minutes before the movie and if she is not very impressed with you she has a very easy way out after the movie is over. Plus, the movie theatre parking lot doesn't exactly have the atmosphere that's conducive to any sort of romantic "good night kiss".
That's basically what happened. We went to an 8:30pm movie, it was over by 10;45pm and I couldn't get to my car fast enough! MS suggested going for a couple of drinks and appetizers but I declined due to having to get up early the next morning. Why?
Well, for starters, MS is in love with MS, only talks about MS and thinks MS rocks! Our pre-movie conversation consisted of MS reciting exactly what he did for the last couple of days. I am talking literally: woke up at such and such time, brushed my teeth, took a shower, etc. down to every little detail. Very engaging, let me tell ya! He also made it a point for me to see that he drove a brand new Mercedes 600 (love the car but hate posers). The last thing that completed my impression of him was the "hands-free earpiece" that he insisted on wearing while watching a movie even though his phone was turned off... WTF?
Now that I think about it... Kind of glad we only went to the movies...
Having lunch with J. , the bartender I met over the weekend. I'll keep you posted.
Happy Wednesday
P.S. Beth, I am not sure I am ready to ship Ryan to you for good but I can overnight him to you every other weekend. How's that sound?
Monday, July 24, 2006
New Male Harem Candidates
My weekend was absolutely awesome! I went from picking my nose for two days last weekend to spending this weekend dancing, drinking, laughing and dating. My new friend DC. and I went downtown twice, once to a regular night club and once to a Latino Night club. I was extremely popular with guys on Friday night for some reason. I guess I should wear that same outfit everywhere I go now ;-) What's with this new pick up line, by the way? I got five offers to go to lunch! I've never been asked to go to lunch while at the bar before! It must be more effective than "Wanna go back to my place?" I actually did accept two of those lunch offers, thus adding MS. and J. to my male harem. J. is a bartender at the most popular night club in town, he didn't charge me or my friend DC. for any drinks for two nights, so I figured I could go to lunch with him. it doesn't hurt that he is kind of cute... I also got a text from this guy Ryan (I think I'll use some names, since the abbreviations are getting confusing) who I was crazy about for a few months until I figured out that he was completely unfit for any sort of relationship except for being FWB. I haven't heard from him in about three weeks and was really surprised that he re-appeared.
Let me tell you about Ryan. He is one of the best looking guys that I have ever seen! He is about 6'4", thick dark hair, dark eyes, body to die for. Do you think he knows he is hot? You betcha! The guy is a man-whore. He knows every single girl in town! I've been out on the town with him a few times and the girls didn't hesitate to come up to him, give him hugs and rub themselves all over him while he was holding my hand!
Overall, he is that one guy your Mama told you to stay away from but I have no self control when it comes to him. I see him and my knees buckle...
What a mess ;-)
P.S. The pictures are not of Ryan but the guys in the pics really remind me of him so I thought I'd share some eye-candy with you all.
Let me tell you about Ryan. He is one of the best looking guys that I have ever seen! He is about 6'4", thick dark hair, dark eyes, body to die for. Do you think he knows he is hot? You betcha! The guy is a man-whore. He knows every single girl in town! I've been out on the town with him a few times and the girls didn't hesitate to come up to him, give him hugs and rub themselves all over him while he was holding my hand!
Overall, he is that one guy your Mama told you to stay away from but I have no self control when it comes to him. I see him and my knees buckle...
What a mess ;-)
P.S. The pictures are not of Ryan but the guys in the pics really remind me of him so I thought I'd share some eye-candy with you all.
Friday, July 21, 2006
Choices Choices!
I thought I'd give you guys an update on my sad attempts to build a male harem per Jen's suggestion that she made a while back.
#1. What happened to C.
I did reply to C.'s email after waiting for a couple of days. I made a couple of sarcastic comments about his disappearance, said that I didn't want to discuss this any more and changed the topic of the conversation. He replied, answered my general questions but said that he would love to hear some more of my sarcasm on the subject. I figured that I had nothing to lose at that point and decided to ask him where we stood. I replied asking him when we were going to see each other again or whether he thought we would just be phone/email buddies. I asked the question in a joking manner even though it was probably a little forward. It's been two days and I haven't heard back. At this point, I don't even think I care any more.
#2 Another date with M. in the future?
M. called yesterday to see if I wanted to go out on another date. I was so exhausted from having slept for 2 hours the night before that I didn't even have the energy to talk to him. I'll have to call him today and figure out the date for that. I decided to give him one more chance to impress me. I don't see it happening but my friends say I don't give guys enough of a chance so I'll try.
#3 Is A. a possibility?
While A. and I had a blast together the other night, nothing is ever going to come out of it. First of all, he has a girlfriend who he's been with for 6 years. Second of all, I don't think I could have any sort of serious relationship with him. He is great as a friend and an occasional ego booster but he lacks certain qualities that I am looking for in a man.
As you can see, pickings are fairly slim. On the bright side, A.'s sister who I have known for a while, now lives here, so I have someone to go out with! That's the plan for the weekend. Who knows, maybe Mr. Right is waiting for me at that bar downtown ;-)
Happy Friday!
#1. What happened to C.
I did reply to C.'s email after waiting for a couple of days. I made a couple of sarcastic comments about his disappearance, said that I didn't want to discuss this any more and changed the topic of the conversation. He replied, answered my general questions but said that he would love to hear some more of my sarcasm on the subject. I figured that I had nothing to lose at that point and decided to ask him where we stood. I replied asking him when we were going to see each other again or whether he thought we would just be phone/email buddies. I asked the question in a joking manner even though it was probably a little forward. It's been two days and I haven't heard back. At this point, I don't even think I care any more.
#2 Another date with M. in the future?
M. called yesterday to see if I wanted to go out on another date. I was so exhausted from having slept for 2 hours the night before that I didn't even have the energy to talk to him. I'll have to call him today and figure out the date for that. I decided to give him one more chance to impress me. I don't see it happening but my friends say I don't give guys enough of a chance so I'll try.
#3 Is A. a possibility?
While A. and I had a blast together the other night, nothing is ever going to come out of it. First of all, he has a girlfriend who he's been with for 6 years. Second of all, I don't think I could have any sort of serious relationship with him. He is great as a friend and an occasional ego booster but he lacks certain qualities that I am looking for in a man.
As you can see, pickings are fairly slim. On the bright side, A.'s sister who I have known for a while, now lives here, so I have someone to go out with! That's the plan for the weekend. Who knows, maybe Mr. Right is waiting for me at that bar downtown ;-)
Happy Friday!
Thursday, July 20, 2006
Everybody Salsa...Not!
I was so excited about going salsa dancing with my friend A. last night. When we got to the Latino Night Club it turned out that they played rock music on Wednesday nights!!! Hmm... Latino Club and Rock Music... I don't see the connection but whatever. So A., his sister and I resorted to hanging out at the bar and having a few cocktails, and then going to my house. A. and I had a good time catching up. We have some history, we never really dated in college but were always attracted to each other. It was really nice to hang out with someone who genuinely thought that I was the most beautiful girl in the world and who wasn't afraid to show it. Really boosted my self-esteem. I definitely needed that after series of "dating disappointments."
I am very sleepy but happy today. Life is good!
Wednesday, July 19, 2006
Do nice guys always finish last? + Forecast for the Evening
I went out to dinner with M. last night. I can't say that it was an awesome first date but it wasn't a date from hell either... Here are the pros and cons (now, these are totally biased; I am only going by what makes a difference to me, not anyone else):
Pros:
Pros:
- He has a great sense of humor and he gets my jokes
- Not bad looking
- Tall (big one in my book)
- Gentleman (opening doors, paying for dinner, etc)
- Tries hard to impress me
Cons:
- Not shy but a little quite (I felt like I had to be the one talking the whole night)
- I didn't feel any sort of attraction physically
- He took the time to cut up his chicken into bite-size pieces before he started eating. I just sat there and watched him quietly for about 10 min (he was very thorough)
- He is divorced and has a kid (not that there is anything wrong with that but I've never dated anyone with a child, so it freaks me out a little bit)
Needless to say, I didn't initiate the kiss, nor did I wait for one at the end of the night. I did say that I had a good time because I did but I am not sure how long this "relationship" is going to last...
On a totally different note, I got a call from an old college friend A. yesterday completely out of the blue. His parents just moved to my town and he is coming to visit them for a couple of days today. Forecast for the evening? I am seeing a night of Salsa Dancing in our near future (in a few hours to be exact)! He is originally from South America and he is the best dancer I've ever met! I can't wait to brush up on my skills ;-)
Ciao!
Tuesday, July 18, 2006
Mind-Boggling!
Here's a recap of a phone convo I just had with some lady that left me speechless:
Some lady just called my cell phone and asked for Jennifer. I politely said, "I 'm sorry, you got the wrong number." She says, "Oh, I did? Well, can you give the correct number?"
Lady!!! You called my phone asking for some random Jennifer!!! How in the hell am I supposed to know what her number is???
Some lady just called my cell phone and asked for Jennifer. I politely said, "I 'm sorry, you got the wrong number." She says, "Oh, I did? Well, can you give the correct number?"
Lady!!! You called my phone asking for some random Jennifer!!! How in the hell am I supposed to know what her number is???
Here we go again... Need advice!
It never fails! I spent my Sunday and Monday convincing myself to forget all about C. and move on. I thought I succeeded. I accepted a dinner invitation for tonight from a really nice guy M. and managed to make peace with the fact that I've been rejected by C.
Well, who do I get an email from? You guessed it! From C.
He writes:
Hold on,
First- you called me during work and I could not call you back. (I called him at 1 pm, he was getting off at 2pm and I didn't send him a text till 8 pm)
Second- when I got home I got a call from every family member I've ever had...even the dead ones. (NO comment here)
Third-you don't exactly call me much either. (WTF? That has nothing to do with him saying he would call me back in 5 min. And going MIA)
So how was the amusement park? (I told him I was going to one on Sunday)
C.
I need help! How long do I wait to respond? What should I say? Should I comment on his email or just start a new conversation? Am I blowing this out of proportion?
Just another point, he did have a free weekend and didn't make an attempt to see me and the weekend is the only time we can do that since he lives 2 hours away...
I do like C. More than any guy I've met in a long time, so I want to continue talking to him if there is anything there...
Well, who do I get an email from? You guessed it! From C.
He writes:
Hold on,
First- you called me during work and I could not call you back. (I called him at 1 pm, he was getting off at 2pm and I didn't send him a text till 8 pm)
Second- when I got home I got a call from every family member I've ever had...even the dead ones. (NO comment here)
Third-you don't exactly call me much either. (WTF? That has nothing to do with him saying he would call me back in 5 min. And going MIA)
So how was the amusement park? (I told him I was going to one on Sunday)
C.
I need help! How long do I wait to respond? What should I say? Should I comment on his email or just start a new conversation? Am I blowing this out of proportion?
Just another point, he did have a free weekend and didn't make an attempt to see me and the weekend is the only time we can do that since he lives 2 hours away...
I do like C. More than any guy I've met in a long time, so I want to continue talking to him if there is anything there...
Monday, July 17, 2006
50 Facts about Me
1. I’m 5’8”, with blue/green/grey eyes, and dark blond hair
2. I smile a lot
3. I’m single
4. I don’t have any kids
5. But I will someday
6. I ‘m crazy about dogs but I can’t have any in my apartment
7. I love to have people over to my house for dinner
8. Since I’ve moved to MO there haven’t been many people worth asking
9. I grew up close to a river. I miss it
10. I sing in my car
11. I like to cook
12. I was born and raised overseas
13. My favorite adult beverage is dry red wine
14. I love buying shoes
15. I like my whole outfit to “match”
16. I’m a huge procrastinator
17. But I work well under pressure
18. I love to travel
19. I want to go to as many places in the world as possible
20.If I go on vacation, I want it to be to the beach
21. I don’t have much of a sweet tooth
22. But I can’t turn down a good steak
23. I have a Master’s degree
24. When people meet me I come off as ditzy
25. They learn pretty quickly that I know what I’m doing
26. I’m good at reading people
27. Sometimes it’s uncanny
28. This makes people spill their guts to me sometimes
29. I like to exercise
30. Wish I did it more often
31. I can curse in Spanish better than some native speakers
32. I wear glasses and contacts
33. I love to dance
34. I love to ice skate
35. I’ve been to NYC 3 times and it was always an adventure
36. I talk to my mom twice a week, minimum
37. She is the coolest person in the world
38. I think I’m a very good friend
39. And I have the best friends ever (tried and true)
40. They all live at least 3 hours away from me ;-(
41. My favorite colors are red, yellow, black and blue
42. I am a Gemini
43. I have an older brother
44. And an older sister that I adopted in college
45. Her 2 year-old daughter is the most beautiful girl I know
46. I hate ironing
47. I like reading
48. I am always trying to eat healthier
49. The one food that I can’t live without is cheese
50. I can’t stand celery, raw peppers, oranges and cilantro
2. I smile a lot
3. I’m single
4. I don’t have any kids
5. But I will someday
6. I ‘m crazy about dogs but I can’t have any in my apartment
7. I love to have people over to my house for dinner
8. Since I’ve moved to MO there haven’t been many people worth asking
9. I grew up close to a river. I miss it
10. I sing in my car
11. I like to cook
12. I was born and raised overseas
13. My favorite adult beverage is dry red wine
14. I love buying shoes
15. I like my whole outfit to “match”
16. I’m a huge procrastinator
17. But I work well under pressure
18. I love to travel
19. I want to go to as many places in the world as possible
20.If I go on vacation, I want it to be to the beach
21. I don’t have much of a sweet tooth
22. But I can’t turn down a good steak
23. I have a Master’s degree
24. When people meet me I come off as ditzy
25. They learn pretty quickly that I know what I’m doing
26. I’m good at reading people
27. Sometimes it’s uncanny
28. This makes people spill their guts to me sometimes
29. I like to exercise
30. Wish I did it more often
31. I can curse in Spanish better than some native speakers
32. I wear glasses and contacts
33. I love to dance
34. I love to ice skate
35. I’ve been to NYC 3 times and it was always an adventure
36. I talk to my mom twice a week, minimum
37. She is the coolest person in the world
38. I think I’m a very good friend
39. And I have the best friends ever (tried and true)
40. They all live at least 3 hours away from me ;-(
41. My favorite colors are red, yellow, black and blue
42. I am a Gemini
43. I have an older brother
44. And an older sister that I adopted in college
45. Her 2 year-old daughter is the most beautiful girl I know
46. I hate ironing
47. I like reading
48. I am always trying to eat healthier
49. The one food that I can’t live without is cheese
50. I can’t stand celery, raw peppers, oranges and cilantro
The New Dating Rules
I found this interesting article on www.msn.com and thought I'd post it here. It really hit the spot for me since I am absolutely terrible at "playing games" when it comes to dating. I can't date more than one guy at a time and if I am not interested in somebody, I let him know right away. I don't necessarily agree with all of these new rules but it's definitely food-for-thought for all of us single girls out there...
Dating & Relating Game-playing: The new rules
By Natalie Krinsky
A few months ago, to my delight and utter shock, I found myself dating a bona fide gem. Determined not to “mess this one up,” I did everything I could to play my cards right. I gave him space when he needed it, was careful not to call too often, and more or less stayed away from (as my best male friend put it) “any psycho girlfriend moves.” Then, seemingly out of nowhere, on a sunny Thursday afternoon, I received The Breakup Call.
When I complained about this turn of events to a good friend, she told me I’d been “too available” throughout our relationship. I replied that I did so because I genuinely liked spending time with him and I wasn’t interested in making up fictional plans in order to keep him waiting. Self-righteously, I stated that I had very little interest in playing games. She suggested I rethink my plan. “A little game-playing never hurt anyone,” she told me. Which got me to thinking: Can two people create a healthy relationship without game-playing, or is it a necessary evil to instill a little excitement? Have the rules of the game changed in the past few years? A quick poll of my savvy single friends and experts revealed that yes, I had a lot to learn.
Here’s a rundown:
Rule #1: Game-playing can be exciting, not evil
For starters, my friends told me that I had to get over the idea that games are for insecure, manipulative liars out to destroy the self-esteem of singles everywhere. Without game-playing, they argued, dating can actually get pretty dull. Just think: If you get a call or email back from someone immediately, where’s the fun in that? Sure, it can seem cruel to make someone wait (or wait yourself), but take it for what it is: A delicious dose of anticipation. It could pan out, or it could not. But either way, if a person does like you, he or she will call—it may just be a few days. What’s the rush? So I learned that I don’t need to accept an offer for a date tomorrow night, nor do I need to give my answer right away. Slowing down and being a bit unavailable can be good things.
Rule #2: Ladies, take his number
A close friend of mine, Natasha, has a hard and fast rule: Never give out your number, even to guys you like. A few nights ago while at dinner, I saw her wisdom at work when some guys at the next table began chatting us up. When one of them asked Natasha for her digits, she refused, but said she’d be more than glad to take his. “But when a girl takes your number that means she’s not going to call,” he argued. Natasha coyly replied, “It doesn’t mean I’m not going to call you, it just means that I have a choice in whether I’d like to talk to you or not. If I give you my number, I lose my right to vote.” Instantly, her suitor’s interest level leaped, and the reason is quite simple: She was playing her own version of hard to get. And he was very intrigued.
Rule #3: Guys—quit with the compliments
Men have been taught that women love compliments—and in many cases this is true. But in the early stages of dating, compliments can backfire, warns pickup guru Neil Strauss, best-selling author of The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists. Sure, telling her that you can’t take her eyes off her is flattering, but she’ll ultimately be more interested if she doesn’t know she’s absolutely riveting. Instead, throw out a more questionable comment like, “Those are nice nails. Are they real?” or “I like your skirt—I’ve seen a few woman wearing that very thing recently.” Your goal is not to hurt your date, merely to make her question whether you’re really interested in her. If done right (note: Never tell her she needs to lose weight), she’ll be eating out of your hand once you do follow up with a more sincere, “I’d love to see you again. How about Saturday?”
Rule #4: You don’t always have to be yourself
While it’d be nice to think that you can just “be yourself” on a date and always bowl someone over, let’s face it: No one’s scintillating 24/7. So if you’re face-to-face with someone you’re dying to impress, it can help to have some tried-and-true “routines” at the ready. A “routine” is any story from your life, eye-catching conversation topic, or party trick that always wins kudos from a crowd, says Strauss. Take note of what’s worked in your own social interactions. Maybe you always get laughs when you regale people with a tale of the time you lost your car in a parking lot and wandered around for hours. Or maybe the question “I’m totally stumped about what to get my mom/dad for her/his birthday. Any ideas?” always gets people talking. These are the kinds of conversation starters you should have up your sleeve before heading to a party or off on a date. The way I look at it, this form of game-playing—plotting out ways to impress the object of your affection—can also just be seen as doing one’s prep work. Which is definitely an asset in the world of dating.
Natalie Krinsky is the author of Chloe Does Yale—and currently is not available for a date on the weekend if you call after Wednesday.
Article courtesy of Happen magazine, http://msn.match.com/magazine/index.aspx.
Dating & Relating Game-playing: The new rules
By Natalie Krinsky
A few months ago, to my delight and utter shock, I found myself dating a bona fide gem. Determined not to “mess this one up,” I did everything I could to play my cards right. I gave him space when he needed it, was careful not to call too often, and more or less stayed away from (as my best male friend put it) “any psycho girlfriend moves.” Then, seemingly out of nowhere, on a sunny Thursday afternoon, I received The Breakup Call.
When I complained about this turn of events to a good friend, she told me I’d been “too available” throughout our relationship. I replied that I did so because I genuinely liked spending time with him and I wasn’t interested in making up fictional plans in order to keep him waiting. Self-righteously, I stated that I had very little interest in playing games. She suggested I rethink my plan. “A little game-playing never hurt anyone,” she told me. Which got me to thinking: Can two people create a healthy relationship without game-playing, or is it a necessary evil to instill a little excitement? Have the rules of the game changed in the past few years? A quick poll of my savvy single friends and experts revealed that yes, I had a lot to learn.
Here’s a rundown:
Rule #1: Game-playing can be exciting, not evil
For starters, my friends told me that I had to get over the idea that games are for insecure, manipulative liars out to destroy the self-esteem of singles everywhere. Without game-playing, they argued, dating can actually get pretty dull. Just think: If you get a call or email back from someone immediately, where’s the fun in that? Sure, it can seem cruel to make someone wait (or wait yourself), but take it for what it is: A delicious dose of anticipation. It could pan out, or it could not. But either way, if a person does like you, he or she will call—it may just be a few days. What’s the rush? So I learned that I don’t need to accept an offer for a date tomorrow night, nor do I need to give my answer right away. Slowing down and being a bit unavailable can be good things.
Rule #2: Ladies, take his number
A close friend of mine, Natasha, has a hard and fast rule: Never give out your number, even to guys you like. A few nights ago while at dinner, I saw her wisdom at work when some guys at the next table began chatting us up. When one of them asked Natasha for her digits, she refused, but said she’d be more than glad to take his. “But when a girl takes your number that means she’s not going to call,” he argued. Natasha coyly replied, “It doesn’t mean I’m not going to call you, it just means that I have a choice in whether I’d like to talk to you or not. If I give you my number, I lose my right to vote.” Instantly, her suitor’s interest level leaped, and the reason is quite simple: She was playing her own version of hard to get. And he was very intrigued.
Rule #3: Guys—quit with the compliments
Men have been taught that women love compliments—and in many cases this is true. But in the early stages of dating, compliments can backfire, warns pickup guru Neil Strauss, best-selling author of The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists. Sure, telling her that you can’t take her eyes off her is flattering, but she’ll ultimately be more interested if she doesn’t know she’s absolutely riveting. Instead, throw out a more questionable comment like, “Those are nice nails. Are they real?” or “I like your skirt—I’ve seen a few woman wearing that very thing recently.” Your goal is not to hurt your date, merely to make her question whether you’re really interested in her. If done right (note: Never tell her she needs to lose weight), she’ll be eating out of your hand once you do follow up with a more sincere, “I’d love to see you again. How about Saturday?”
Rule #4: You don’t always have to be yourself
While it’d be nice to think that you can just “be yourself” on a date and always bowl someone over, let’s face it: No one’s scintillating 24/7. So if you’re face-to-face with someone you’re dying to impress, it can help to have some tried-and-true “routines” at the ready. A “routine” is any story from your life, eye-catching conversation topic, or party trick that always wins kudos from a crowd, says Strauss. Take note of what’s worked in your own social interactions. Maybe you always get laughs when you regale people with a tale of the time you lost your car in a parking lot and wandered around for hours. Or maybe the question “I’m totally stumped about what to get my mom/dad for her/his birthday. Any ideas?” always gets people talking. These are the kinds of conversation starters you should have up your sleeve before heading to a party or off on a date. The way I look at it, this form of game-playing—plotting out ways to impress the object of your affection—can also just be seen as doing one’s prep work. Which is definitely an asset in the world of dating.
Natalie Krinsky is the author of Chloe Does Yale—and currently is not available for a date on the weekend if you call after Wednesday.
Article courtesy of Happen magazine, http://msn.match.com/magazine/index.aspx.
Saturday, July 15, 2006
Crappy weekend
Well, I can finally close the "C. Chapter" in my book. When we talked yesterday, he asked me to call him today and let him know the answer to a question that he asked (nothing important, so I won't go into details). I called and he said he was going to call me back in about five minutes. I haven't heard from him since. How can somebody go from calling and talking to me for hours one day and ignoring me the next with no apparent reason for doing so! I was already having a really boring weekend and this episode made me feel like I am a total loser. I sent him a text message saying, "You could've just said you didn't want to talk to me any more." I probably shouldn't have but I needed some sort of a closure.
Where do people find new friends in a new city any way? I am not shy by any means. My friends think I am fun to be around. I just don't know where to start. Everybody I work with is much older than me and we don't have much in common, so we really don't spend any time outside of work. My neighbors are not very friendly and the ones I do start talking to at the pool are nice but that's as far as it goes. Do I just go up to people at Wal-Mart and ask them if they want to be my friends???
I guess, I am going to go continue picking my nose and watching TV...
Where do people find new friends in a new city any way? I am not shy by any means. My friends think I am fun to be around. I just don't know where to start. Everybody I work with is much older than me and we don't have much in common, so we really don't spend any time outside of work. My neighbors are not very friendly and the ones I do start talking to at the pool are nice but that's as far as it goes. Do I just go up to people at Wal-Mart and ask them if they want to be my friends???
I guess, I am going to go continue picking my nose and watching TV...
Friday, July 14, 2006
Update on C.
So, C. called me on his way home from work today. We talked for about an hour and a half. Did he mention getting together this weekend? Noooo... I tried to drop some hints but... nothing. I should have asked him when we were going to see each other again but I chickened out. Didn't want to seem needy or clingy I guess. I have a feeling that a couple of my previous boyfriends went MIA on me because I was too eager to spend time with them. What can I say... I didn't want to loose them. I am slowly learning ;-)
Yet, he talked about various places we should try some time in both mine and his towns. What does that mean? Well, we took it even further. I mentioned that the University I work for is planning on building a new basketball arena. C. asked me what company was building it because it'd be really cool if he got to work on the project so he could move to my town (he works for a large construction company). I am kind of excited now because I found out that it was his company that got awarded the contract! I know I am stupid. I've been on 1 date with the guy, haven't seen him in 2 weeks but get excited about a possibility of him moving closer. Can't help it!
That's all I got for now.
Can anybody tell me how to edit my links in the sidebar so I can post links for the blogs that I visit all the time? Can't figure it out for the life of me!
Yet, he talked about various places we should try some time in both mine and his towns. What does that mean? Well, we took it even further. I mentioned that the University I work for is planning on building a new basketball arena. C. asked me what company was building it because it'd be really cool if he got to work on the project so he could move to my town (he works for a large construction company). I am kind of excited now because I found out that it was his company that got awarded the contract! I know I am stupid. I've been on 1 date with the guy, haven't seen him in 2 weeks but get excited about a possibility of him moving closer. Can't help it!
That's all I got for now.
Can anybody tell me how to edit my links in the sidebar so I can post links for the blogs that I visit all the time? Can't figure it out for the life of me!
My Current Dating Situation
Let me start by answering the good old question, "Why are you single?"
Well, I am single because I refuse to settle for less than what I want. I'd like to think that's the real reason, any way ;-) I am very self-sufficient and have no problem with being alone but it gets daunting at times, especially at various social events that require a "plus one".
I do date quite a bit. I'm becoming quite an expert at the whole "online dating thing". It's got its advantages and disadvantages. I will share some stories with you all eventually. I've been on some "Dates from Hell"!
Right now, I have a crush on this guy C. Who I met online and went out with on one date two weeks ago. I haven't seen him since then due to me being on vacation for a while and then him being on a business trip. We talked on the phone off and on but here's the problem though... I can't figure him out! First of all, the problem is that he lives 2 hours away. He didn't seem to have a problem driving up here for our first date right after work. We had a blast. Now that we both seem to have a free weekend coming up, it'd make sense for us to make some plans to hang out, right? Wrong. He hasn't called in the last 4 days. That leads me to believe that this is the classic case of "He's not that into you". I am going to have to move on... Unfortunately.
Since I hoped that C. would come to his senses and call me to schedule a date for this weekend, I made no other plans whatsoever. Big mistake! Here I am sitting here on a Friday afternoon with nothing but sleeping, working out and laying out by the pool on my agenda for the next 2.5 days... Any suggestions on what I should occupy my time with will be greatly appreciated (something that can be done solo but at the same time it'd be nice if it involved being around people)
I'd really like to send him this picture but I won't ;-)
Happy Friday any way!
Well, I am single because I refuse to settle for less than what I want. I'd like to think that's the real reason, any way ;-) I am very self-sufficient and have no problem with being alone but it gets daunting at times, especially at various social events that require a "plus one".
I do date quite a bit. I'm becoming quite an expert at the whole "online dating thing". It's got its advantages and disadvantages. I will share some stories with you all eventually. I've been on some "Dates from Hell"!
Right now, I have a crush on this guy C. Who I met online and went out with on one date two weeks ago. I haven't seen him since then due to me being on vacation for a while and then him being on a business trip. We talked on the phone off and on but here's the problem though... I can't figure him out! First of all, the problem is that he lives 2 hours away. He didn't seem to have a problem driving up here for our first date right after work. We had a blast. Now that we both seem to have a free weekend coming up, it'd make sense for us to make some plans to hang out, right? Wrong. He hasn't called in the last 4 days. That leads me to believe that this is the classic case of "He's not that into you". I am going to have to move on... Unfortunately.
Since I hoped that C. would come to his senses and call me to schedule a date for this weekend, I made no other plans whatsoever. Big mistake! Here I am sitting here on a Friday afternoon with nothing but sleeping, working out and laying out by the pool on my agenda for the next 2.5 days... Any suggestions on what I should occupy my time with will be greatly appreciated (something that can be done solo but at the same time it'd be nice if it involved being around people)
I'd really like to send him this picture but I won't ;-)
Happy Friday any way!
Let me introduce myself...
Here I am! Finally starting my own blog...
Who I am: I am a twenty something professional girl. I recently moved to a new city to advance my career. I barely know anybody around here and I am single so I'll have a lot of time on my hands to document my crazy life ;-)
Who I am: I am a twenty something professional girl. I recently moved to a new city to advance my career. I barely know anybody around here and I am single so I'll have a lot of time on my hands to document my crazy life ;-)
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